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Partnered with a Survivor Podcast: Intimate, professional, informative

These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners.

These podcasts are a reflection of Ruth & David’s on-going conversations which are both intimate and professional and touch on complex topics like how systems fail victims and children, how victims experience those systems, and how children are impacted by those failures. Their discussions delve into how society views masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners. During these podcasts, David & Ruth challenge the notions which keep all us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures and as families into safety, nurturance and healing.Note: Some of the topics discussed in the episodes are deeply personal and sensitive, which may be difficult for some people. We occasionally use mature language. We often use gender pronouns like “he” when discussing perpetrators and “she” for victims. While both and men and women can be abusive and controlling, and domestic abuse happens in straight and same-sex relationships, the most common situation, when it comes to coercive control, is a male perpetrator and a female victim. Men’s abuse toward women is more closely associated with physical injury, fear and control. Similarly, very different expectations of men and women as parents and the focus of Safe & Together on children in the context of domestic abuse makes it impossible to make generic references to gender when it comes to parenting. The Model, through its behavioral focus on patterns of behavior, is useful in identifying and responding to abuse in all situations including same-sex couples and women’s use of violence. We think our listeners are sophisticated enough to understand these distinctions.

March 20, 2020

Episode 11, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 11: Getting Inside the Mind of Men who Use Violence In this podcast, David & Ruth get inside the mind of men who use violence […]
March 20, 2020

Episode 12, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast (SPECIAL COVID-19 FOCUS)

About Episode 12: COVID-19: Helping families impacted by domestic abuse in a time of crisis In the first of a series of COVID-19 specific podcasts, David and […]
March 12, 2020

Episode 10, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 10: Lived Experience Episode with Ryan Hart and the Y Change Team, Berry Street Ruth & David talk to the Lived Experience Experts highlighted […]
March 12, 2020

Episode 9, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 9: “My daughter is being abused and I don’t know what to say:” The friends and family episode In this episode, Ruth & David […]
March 12, 2020

Episode 8, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

  About Episode 8: Male Parental Development and how Father’s Parenting Choices Matter In this episode of “Partnered with a Survivor,” Ruth and David start their […]
March 12, 2020

Episode 7, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 7: Torture Tactics, honoring survivors’ trauma responses by more effective partnering In this Episode of “Partnered with a Survivor,” Ruth & David speak about […]
March 12, 2020

Episode 6, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

  About Episode 6: Masculinity, Gender and Power In this episode of “Partnered with a Survivor” David and Ruth continue their conversation about ‘masculinities’ and its […]
March 12, 2020

Episode 5, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 5: Professional Safety & Trauma In this episode of “Partnered with a Survivor,” David and Ruth dive into the huge topic of professionals and […]
March 12, 2020

Episode 4, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 4: Gender Double Standards Ruth Stearns Mandel and David Mandel discuss gender double standards and how they impact the work with families. David shares […]
March 12, 2020

Episode 3, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 3: Language and professional terms which cover up realities of abuse In this episode of Partnered with a Survivor Ruth Stearns Mandel & David […]