The Safe & Together™ Model and Alternative Response: The Intersection of Domestic Violence and Substance Use

27 Feb The Safe & Together™ Model and Alternative Response: The Intersection of Domestic Violence and Substance Use

The Struggle with the Intersection of Domestic Violence and Substance Use

Despite the prevalence of child welfare cases with intersection of domestic violence and substance use, most social workers still lack understanding of the relationship between the two issues. The co-occurrence of domestic violence and substance use/misuse is still plagued with misconceptions. Often, social worker’s assessment of these issues is simplified. Existing knowledge of perpetrators’ behavior patterns is not incorporated to improve practice.  This lack of understanding interferes with the:  identification of either issue, thorough assessment, and development of a successful intervention plan.

Safe & Together Model’s Assessment Approach Can Help

The Safe & Together model’s foundation has a focus on assessing the perpetrator’s patterns of behavior and the implications on child safety and well-being. It forms a powerful assessment that improves our work with families when this foundational approach is combined with setting high standards for fathers and uncovering the protective efforts of mothers*.

Using a Perpetrator Pattern-bAsed Approach to the Intersection of Domestic Violence and Substance Abuse

The following are a few practical ideas and questions using a perpetrator pattern-based approach to the intersection of substance abuse and domestic violence. Use these to guide your assessment and improve positive outcomes for children and families.

1. Even if the domestic violence perpetrator is using substances at the time of an incident, do not assume that it only occurs when there is substance use.

Assess the pattern for abusive behaviors even when the person is not using substances., For example, you can ask a survivor: “How does your partner handle his jealousy when he is not drinking?”  Or, you might ask: “What is your partner’s parenting like when he is sober?” You can also ask the perpetrator: “How do you respond when your partner raises concerns about your use on the family’s finances?”

2. A pattern-based approach to assessing the impact of domestic violence perpetrator’s behavior invites to consider the impact of the times that they use substances and do not become abusive.

Once someone has demonstrated their capacity to become violent or abusive when using, family members may experience heightened anxiety or fear even when the violence or abuse does not occur. Assessments should include whether family members are impacted by the potential for abuse associated with drinking. For example, you could ask “When your partner begins to drink, do you know if it will escalate into abuse?”  You could ask the perpetrator: “How is for the children when you start drinking?” and “What do you think they worry about?”

3. A perpetrator’s pattern may involve interfering with their partner’s recovery efforts by influencing or encouraging their use of substances.

This might involve bringing drugs or alcohol into the house to sabotage recovery, or forcing someone to use with them. Some perpetrator’s will make it hard for their partners to attend a treatment program or group. Two common tactics perpetrators use include accusations of cheating with program members or sabotaging their partner’s transportation to and from a program. Further, all of these tactics should be viewed as “parenting choices” by the perpetrator. If an abusive father sabotages his partner’s recovery, he’s choosing to make things less safe for his kids. When we assess his parenting, his choice to be abusive should be seen as a relevant factor.

4. Perpetrators’ domestic violence, substance use and financial control may intersect.

Some perpetrator’s will use control to gain access over money and resources, like a car, in order to maintain their addiction. Others may use intimidation, threats and manipulation to avoid the consequences of their uses. It is important to understand the connection between these behaviors and the impact they have on child and family functioning. For example, documentation should describe the impact his choice to take the car, or spending money on drugs has on his family’s functioning. It is more likely to assume that unmet basic needs are the sole responsibility of the mother.. For example, housing instability and inadequate food might appear to be the mother’s fault without the father’s pattern being specifically documented. This thinking effectively reduces or ignores the abusive father’s responsibility for his children’s safety and well-being.

5. Some perpetrators may be less dangerous when they are using.

Some partners may encourage their substance use or one type of use over another as part of a way to reduce situational risk. While on the surface this can be very challenging to workers, it is very important to remain pattern-based in our assessment of safety and well-being. Based on this specific perpetrator’s pattern, are the behaviors of the adult survivor reasonable? Are they part of active effort to manage safety for herself and her children?

These efforts may not afford the children adequate safety and well-being due to the severity of the perpetrator’s behavior. However, it is important to see the adult survivor’s behavior in the context of the perpetrator’s pattern. This is an important starting point for engagement.   This perspective can help develop a meaningful partnership with the adult survivor.  It can also improve our capacity to intervene with the perpetrator around their parenting choices and behavior.

More Resources To Support Your Practice:

For more a 10-item checklist on the intersection of domestic violence, substance abuse and mental health issues, click here.

Click on these links for more information on the Safe and Together model and Ohio Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) Collaborative.This piece was originally written for Ohio’s Department Jobs and Family Services’ Differential Response Newsletter Winter 2015. To read more about Ohio’s Differential Response efforts.

*The Safe & Together Model  is both fact-based and gender-responsive. We know that domestic violence perpetrators can be both male or female and in heterosexual and same-sex relationships. And, we believe it is important to acknowledge that the child welfare system has often held mothers and fathers to different parenting expectations.

To comprehensively address perpetrator accountability and change, it requires an examination of the impact of the father’s abusive behavior across a full range of domains of child and family functioning. This position views domestic violence as a “parenting choice.”

Good practice requires a gender-responsive lens for assessing mothers’ protective efforts. This means going beyond calling the police, getting a court order or leaving. Instead, we recognize how day-to-day parenting efforts deserve validation and documentation as protective efforts and parenting strengths.

Good practice means not overlooking all that adult survivors are doing to promote the safety, stability, nurturance and healing for their kids because “it’s just what mothers do.”

David Mandel, MA, LPC

Learn more about the Safe & Together Institute HERE.