COVID-19 CASE PLANNING

COVID-19 related blogs, podcasts, webinars, resources and support

During this time of crisis, adapting our work with families impacted by perpetrators’ behaviors is a critical task. The Safe & Together Institute is committed to doubling its efforts during this time to provide critical and useful information and virtual options for training and support.

New Safe & Together Resources

Download the FREE Friends and Family Guide Ally Guide: If you know someone who is being abused or suspect a loved one is being abused – this guide is for you. It gives you the words to say, the actions to take and how to help the most. It’s also useful for practitioners who are working with families. During this time of pandemic and social isolation, family, friends and communities have an even more important role to play in helping their loved ones who are survivors.

COVID-19 Quick Guide: Designed primarily for Safe & Together Model trained practitioners to use with our Perpetrator Pattern Mapping tool, this COVID-19-specific practice document includes:

  • General tips related to understanding domestic violence perpetration in the context of COVID-19 pandemic
  • Perpetrator pattern mapping tips in the context of the current crisis
  • A COVID-19 specific danger checklist to be used in combination with Safe & Together training and mapping tool

Safe & Together offers multiple free resources – from research to videos here.

Free Webinars

Perpetrator pattern-based assessments in a time of a pandemic
Using the Safe & Together Model’s COVID-19 Quick Guide and Danger Checklist, David Mandel will explore how to apply the Safe & Together Model in the current context.

Keeping children safe, but without the office: How to Zoom for Social Workers
Despite the ongoing environment of social distancing and restrictions on group gatherings, professionals are still required to provide services to their families. Learn the basics of using Zoom for hosting virtual meetings, and share tips and tricks for case consultation with international child protection agencies.

Recorded sessions are available in our Virtual Academy.

Virtual Support Groups for Practitioners & Leadership

Shared learning and support is one of the ways we are stronger in this time of crisis. Our weekly Virtual Support Groups – one for practitioners and one for leaders – are bringing together dozens of professionals from diverse sectors from all over the globe. This allows us to compile, in real time, observations and practice tips in this rapidly changing environment. These practice tip sheets will be updated regularly with new learnings.

The Safe & Together Institute, an international leader in distance learning in the domestic abuse and welfare fields, is proud to announce the launch of its Virtual Academy. With the goal of supporting domestic violence-informed practice and organizational change in this time of uncertainty, we are dramatically expanding our ability to teach, train and build community online.  Using a powerful yet intuitive platform, our Virtual Academy connects learners all over the world with many familiar social media functions and a wider catalog of courses including those specific to COVID-19 and domestic abuse and virtual working. See Courses.

COVID-related Blogs

United Kingdom Ministry of Defence (MoD) and the Safe & Together Model: At the forefront of tackling domestic abuse in the military

When it comes to tackling domestic abuse the Army Welfare Service (AWS) has made a change.

Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’: A new community-based men’s behavior change toolkit

Traditionally, domestic abuse accountability and intervention efforts with men who choose violence have been focused on arrest, courts and men’s behavior change programs. While these endeavors are critical to community efforts around accountability and safety for survivors, we know that most men who choose violence may never touch these systems.

You Got This! A Message From a Safe & Together Faculty to Her Peers

Finding our way through unchartered territory can be stress-inducing. Some of us want/need to know everything. Others want/need to feel less inundated by all of the swirling and ever-changing information and recommendations. We are currently being asked to change almost everything about how we live our lives.

Shared pandemic-related fears offer us new opportunities to engage men in response to escalating domestic violence

With widely held fears that domestic violence and child abuse and neglect rates are increasing during this period and the reduction of informal and formal supports […]

Now is not the time for child welfare to lose focus on domestic violence

Now is not the time for child welfare to lose focus on domestic violence By Anna Mitchell and David Mandel Even before the current crisis of […]

Blog Series: Safe & Together in a Time of Crisis Part 2

Part 2: COVID-19, Custody & Access and Domestic Abuse: How to assess and respond By David Mandel, Founder & Executive Director of the Safe & Together […]

Blog Series: Safe & Together in a Time of Crisis  

Part 1: How to adapt your domestic abuse assessments during the pandemic By David Mandel, Founder & Executive Director of the Safe & Together Institute During […]

Partnering with survivors to protect children: How one city revolutionized children’s services with Safe & Together

By Sudha Sankar, Ph.D. Systems change efforts are some of the most challenging undertakings. It’s no surprise then that most of us are hesitant to roll […]

Podcast: Partnered with a Survivor

Podcast: Partnered with a Survivor with David Mandel and Ruth Stearns Mandel You asked, we answered. Amidst our current, global political and social upheavals, during movements, […]

What to do when… for Supervisors

What to do when… Domestic Violence Informed Practice Tips for Supervisors …SDM households change e.g. the family separates during life of case?  How do we use […]

What to do when…

What to do when… Domestic Violence Informed Practice Tips …Both people have been arrested? When do parents or caregivers have been arrested for domestic violence, it […]

Domestic violence-informed system change is hard to achieve without addressing worker safety: Part II

Supervisory strategies While there are many strategies needed to address worker safety, reflective supervision[1] is one critical way for agencies to advance their domestic violence practice.[2] […]

Worker Safety and Domestic Violence in Child Welfare Systems

“Worker fear can result in victim-blaming and in under or over-estimating the level of danger, which affects the safety of both victims/survivors and workers: ‘We become […]

BBC covers Safe & Together’s commitment to working with agencies in London

BBC Coverage of Safe & Together’s commitment to working with Waltham Forest Council, Hackney Council and Respect UK in creating domestic violence aware systems to keep […]

Scotland’s Programme for Government Commits to Safe & Together Model

Scotland rolled out its annual report for actions the country plans to take in the coming year and beyond. The overall theme, Protecting Scotland’s Future, included […]

Safe & Together for Supervisors: A Critical Element of Domestic Violence-informed Organizational Change

Part of an occasional series on domestic violence-informed supervisory practice  By David Mandel, Executive Director Safe & Together Model training for supervisors is one of the […]

SafeLives Podcast: The Safe &Together Model interview with Anna Mitchell

The Safe & Together™ Model is about domestic violence in child welfare contexts. The S&TI UK lead, Anna Mitchell talks with SafeLives about the Model and […]

Second Annual Asia Pacific Safe & Together Conference: Call for Presenters

The Safe & Together Institute is coming back to the Asia Pacific! We hope you’ll join us for the Second Annual Asia Pacific Safe & Together™ […]

First Asia Pacific Safe & Together Model Conference in Review

The inaugural, two-day Asia Pacific Safe & Together Model Conference in early 2018 was a partnership between the Safe & Together Institute (S&TI) and the Berry Street […]

Registration is Open for the 6th Annual Safe & Together Conference!

We hope you will join us for the first time, or the sixth, as we continue to bring together professionals from around the globe who want […]

How Safe & Together Changes Work with Survivors

David Mandel of Safe & Together Institute (formerly David Mandel & Associates) talks about the importance of moving “child welfare systems” away from destructive practices to […]

The Invisibility of the Domestic Violence Perpetrator as Parent

by David Mandel One could argue that the child welfare system, the domestic violence movement, and the academic and clinical fields of family violence and child […]

Creating successful child welfare domestic violence specialist positions

We often recommend that child welfare systems seeking to become domestic violence-informed, consider the creation of some sort of domestic violence specialist position. A child welfare […]

“Nobody owns the domestic violence perpetrator”

In a recent two day Safe and Together multi-disciplinary training in New Orleans (organized by the New Orleans Children’s Advocacy Center), one of the participants identified […]

Safe & Together Model Video Featured in Australian National Child Protection Week

Centacare Catholic Family Services (South Australia) launched their National Child Protection Week (Sept 6-12) events around the theme of domestic violence perpetration is a parenting choice. […]

Definitions and key markers associated with Domestic Violence-Informed practice

The more perpetrator pattern focused a system becomes, the more likely it is to move toward domestic violence competency and proficiency. What is the definition of a perpetrator […]

Excerpts from the upcoming book “Creating Domestic Violence-Informed Child Welfare Systems” by David Mandel

David Mandel is currently working on a book “Creating Domestic Violence-Informed Child Welfare Systems”(working title). The book will contain more on the Continuum of Domestic Violence […]

The Safe & Together™ Model and Alternative Response: The Intersectionality of Perpetrator’s Patterns and Substance Use

By David Mandel, MA, LPC Domestic violence and substance abuse co-occur in both the alternative response and traditional response pathways. Despite this day-to-day contact many in […]

David Mandel keynote at AZ Strong Families Alliance Home Visitors Conference September 2014

   

Are we measuring safety or hope when we measure protective capacities?

by Kristen Selleck, MSW, National Training Director I’ve been reading a lot about protective efforts and how we assess domestic violence survivors’ capacity for protecting their […]

Multiple Pathways from Domestic Violence Perpetrator’s Behavior to Harm to Children

In this new video clip, David Mandel talks about the importance of a wider assessment framework for the intersection of domestic violence perpetrator behavior and harm […]

Ohio reports shows evidence of Safe and Together model efficacy in changing child welfare practice

In Ohio, the National Center for Adoption Law and Policy (NCALP), the Healthpath Foundation of Ohio and ODJFS  collaborated to conduct  a third party evaluation of the Safe and Together trainings […]

Safe and Together Model Advocacy Institute Participant Shares Changes in Practice

The feedback we have received from Advocacy Institute participants in Florida has been overwhelmingly positive, and in many ways has even exceeded our expectations. Many of […]

Patterns Matter

By Kristen Selleck, National Training Directors Recently at a training with a group of child welfare workers, administrators, supervisors and domestic violence advocates, the importance of […]

Right and Wrong

By Kristen Selleck, MSW, National Training Director How many of us have had a conversation with a school age child about right and wrong? The conversation […]

CAPTA, a perpetrator pattern-based approach and domestic violence informed child welfare systems: Part II: Identifying co-occurrence

By Kristen Selleck, MSW In the beginning of May 2014, David Mandel & Associates will be presenting as part of a team at the 19th National Conference on […]

CAPTA, a perpetrator pattern-based approach and domestic violence informed child welfare systems

By David Mandel, MA, LPC In the beginning of May 2014, David Mandel & Associates will be presenting as part of a team at the 19th […]

Mapping Perpetrator Patterns and “Reasonable Person” Standard Help Keep Child Safety as the Bottom Line in Domestic Violence Cases

By Kristen Selleck, MSW, National Training Director Child welfare systems struggle with domestic violence cases for numerous reasons, but one of the biggest reasons is trying […]

Safe and Together Model Suite of Tools and Interventions: An in-depth look: Gender responsive, gender and sexual orientation neutral, fact based approach to assessment

by David Mandel, MA, LPC The Safe and Together Model Suite of Tools and Interventions represents a gender responsive, gender and sexual orientation neutral, fact based […]

Florida co-located advocates, Florida DCF and Safe and Together model combine to reduce removal of children from domestic violence survivors in half

David Mandel & Associates has been collaborating with both the Florida Coalition for Domestic Violence (FCADV) and the Florida Department of Children and Families for the […]

Changing a System from the Outside: Thoughts for Domestic Violence Advocates Wanting to Support and Encourage Domestic Violence Proficient Child Welfare Systems

by Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training Director With the growth of co-located child welfare domestic violence advocates across the country, (by one count approximately 25 states […]

Replacing a Paradigm

by Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training Director Child welfare has historically used a paradigm called “failure to protect” which is designed to identify a parent or […]

Using a continuum of practice framework to envision and build domestic violence informed child welfare systems

by David Mandel, MA, LPC At our 2013 New Orleans National Safe and Together ™ model Symposium, David Mandel & Associates introduced a continuum of practice framework to […]

Free Pass for Survivors?

By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training Director I’ve been asked in various ways in different places recently a question that boils down to this: Does the […]

A working framework for defining and discussing domestic violence within the child welfare community

by David Mandel, MA, LPC   The Department of Justice’s Office of Violence Against Women defines domestic violence in the following way: “We define domestic violence […]

When Do We Remove?

When Do We Remove? By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training Director It’s the constant question facing child welfare: When do we remove children? There are so […]

The value of Multi-Disciplinary Teams reviewing serious domestic violence cases involving children: One Connecticut’s team’s experience

by David Mandel, MA, LPC In the past three decades, Connecticut, like other states, has struggled to respond effectively to the rise of reported child abuse […]

Good assessment of the perpetrator’s pattern behavior and its impact goes beyond “Did the children see or hear the violence?”

by David Mandel, MA, LPC The Safe and Together™ model’s critical components form the foundation of good assessment practice for domestic violence as a factor in […]

When Failure to Protect Fails to Protect Children

By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training and Consultation Director I recently had a conversation with child protection investigators about their use of “failure to protect.” When […]

Replace “Minimizing” with Assessments Beneficial to Child Safety

By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training and Consultation Director Child welfare workers regularly state that one of their frustrations with having domestic violence cases is that […]

When is it Really Safe? (Part One: Assessing Physical Safety for Children)

By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training and Consultation Director In a recent training, a child protection worker asked me how we know children are really safe […]

Victim Blaming isn’t the Issue

By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training and Consultation Director In recent trainings, several participants from both child welfare and domestic violence agencies discussed the issue of […]

CT Appellate Court cites Safe and Together model in sustaining termination of parental rights of domestic violence perpetrator

by David Mandel In re: Jaime S. was an opinion issued by the Connecticut Appellate Court on April 27, 2010 regarding the termination of parental rights […]

Florida DCF removes takes steps to stop “failure to protect” allegations against domestic violence survivors

The Orlando (FL) Sentinel recently published an article entitled “DCF officials changing the way they assess “failure to protect” cases: Advocates for battered women praise new […]

Adult Probation has an important role to play in child welfare

by David Mandel Dr. Katreena Scott (recently returned from supporting the implementation of her Caring Dads curriculum in the UK) shared with me a comprehensive UK […]

One dimensional view of domestic violence perpetrators can harm survivors

David Mandel, MA, LPC It’s difficult not to demonize domestic violence perpetrators.   If you listen to domestic violence survivors describe their abuse, see their injuries, read […]

Creativity Aids in the Application of the Safe and Together Model

By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training and Consultation Director In order to maintain the safety and well-being of children with limited resources and  following policies and […]

The language of child safety

By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training and Consultation Director Professionals who work in the domestic violence and child welfare fields use language that others outside these […]

10 item checklist about the intersection of domestic violence, substance abuse and mental health issues

by David Mandel, MA, LPC Domestic violence frequently co-occurs with mental health and substance abuse issues.   A batterer may be diagnosed correctly or inappropriately with mental […]

Daycare providers as an example of who else should be at our collaborative “table”

By Kristen Selleck, MSW National Training and Consultation Director I recently facilitated a training attended by child welfare investigators, family preservation and other in-home service providers, […]

Preventing disclosures of abuse and neglect

By David Mandel By now,  everyone is clear about  how damaging, counterproductive and dangerous it is when law enforcement officers tell a domestic violence violence survivor […]

Paying attention to worker safety in domestic violence cases

by Kristen Selleck, MSW, National Training and Consultation Director Successful child welfare interventions with families experiencing domestic violence depends on child welfare staff feeling confident, competent, […]

Domestic violence training for supervisors produces some positive results

by David Mandel “In child welfare cases involving domestic violence, supervision plays a critical role in determining the quality and consistency of case practice.   The expectations […]

Overcoming Battered Lives

The Hartford Courant recently started an on-going series of articles on domestic violence. Their in-depth look at  domestic violence in CT can be accessed here.  As […]

Assessing for domestic violence is important for worker safety

by David Mandel Assaults against child welfare workers are generally rare but I recently came in contact with a case where the worker was assaulted by […]

Domestic Violence and Child Welfare: The work always starts with the children

by David Mandel The dynamics of domestic violence pose a series of challenges to child welfare workers. What is the adverse impact of a batterer’s behavior […]

Short and long term PTSD symptoms documented in child welfare workers

by David Mandel The March/April 2009 Child Welfare League of America publication Children’s Voices cited a recent study conducted by the New York Administration for Children […]

Batterer Intervention Programs–not yet the resource child welfare needs

by David Mandel On the eve of the national batterer intervention conference in Minneapolis this week, I’ve been thinking about the relationship between batterer intervention programs […]

Trying to change child welfare’s response to domestic violence? Then support the supervisors!

by David Mandel In the Q & A after a recent conference keynote, an administrator from a child welfare community provider agency posed the following to […]

Empathy for victims isn’t the answer (but it’s important)

by David Mandel During Safe and Together trainings,  I often hear some version of the following statement from child welfare workers:  “I can be empathetic to […]

This work changes us (and we should be talking about it)

by David Mandel I  want to recommend a book that I just finished reading.  It’s  “Trauma Stewardship: An everyday guide to caring for self while caring […]

Partnering with Survivors at the Core of Keeping Children Safe

“The yardstick is flawed because it is based on inaccurate assumptions which place unnecessary barriers to collaboration between child welfare and survivors.”

Podcasts

Episode 18: Survivors aren’t Broken! An intimate discussion about support and partnership in relationships

About Episode 18 In this episode of Partnered with a Survivor, David and Ruth offer a very personal look at relationship dynamics when one partner is […]

Special Interview: Charlie Webster with Ruth Mandel

About the Interview Ruth Stearns Mandel shares her experiences and training with BBC’s Charlie Webster during a special episode on talkRADIO about domestic violence.

Episode 17: Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’: A new community-based men’s behavior change toolkit

About Episode 17 To coincide with Father’s Day in the UK and USA we are pleased to launch our ‘Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’ […]

3KND Interview: A global movement going forward to protect children from family violence

About the Episode The Safe & Together Institute and Berry Street hosted the 3rd Asia Pacific Safe & Together™ Model Conference in February. Practitioners, policymakers, academics […]

3KND Interview: The impacts of controlling behaviour, the hidden violence in relationships

About the Episode In 2017 Luke and Ryan Hart’s lives changed tragically when their father murdered their Mother Claire and Sister Charlotte in Lincolnshire UK. Their […]

3KND Interview: How Ruth Mandel’s podcast ‘Partnered With a Survivor’ is supporting healing all over the world

About the Episode Ruth Stearns Mandel is the Communications and E-Learning Manager at the Safe & Together Institute. ‘Partnered with a Survivor,” podcast with S&T’s Executive […]

Episode 16: Family and Friends Guide: How to be an ally to a loved one who is being abused

About Episode 16 In this episode, David interviews Ruth about the Safe & Together Institute’s Family and Friends Ally Guide. This guide was created out the […]

Episode 15: Coercive Control, Entrapment & Isolation: An interview with Luke & Ryan Hart

About Episode 15 Before he murdered their mother Claire and their sister Charlotte, Luke and Ryan Hart’s father spent years justifying his control by telling them […]

Episode 14, Caring for self while caring for others: An interview with Laura van Dernoot Lipksy

About Episode 14: Caring for self while caring for others: An interview with Laura van Dernoot Lipksy In this episode, Ruth and David have a discussion with […]

Episode 13, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast (SPECIAL COVID-19 FOCUS)

About Episode 13: Mapping domestic violence perpetrator’s use of COVID-19 pandemic to increase coercive control In this episode Ruth & David outline an emerging checklist for […]

Episode 11, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 11: Getting Inside the Mind of Men who Use Violence In this podcast, David & Ruth get inside the mind of men who use violence […]

Episode 12, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast (SPECIAL COVID-19 FOCUS)

About Episode 12: COVID-19: Helping families impacted by domestic abuse in a time of crisis In the first of a series of COVID-19 specific podcasts, David and […]

Episode 10, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 10: Lived Experience Episode with Ryan Hart and the Y Change Team, Berry Street Ruth & David talk to the Lived Experience Experts highlighted […]

Episode 9, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 9: “My daughter is being abused and I don’t know what to say:” The friends and family episode In this episode, Ruth & David […]

Episode 8, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

  About Episode 8: Male Parental Development and how Father’s Parenting Choices Matter In this episode of “Partnered with a Survivor,” Ruth and David start their […]

Episode 7, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 7: Torture Tactics, honoring survivors’ trauma responses by more effective partnering In this Episode of “Partnered with a Survivor,” Ruth & David speak about […]

Episode 6, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

  About Episode 6: Masculinity, Gender and Power In this episode of “Partnered with a Survivor” David and Ruth continue their conversation about ‘masculinities’ and its […]

Episode 5, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 5: Professional Safety & Trauma In this episode of “Partnered with a Survivor,” David and Ruth dive into the huge topic of professionals and […]

Episode 4, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 4: Gender Double Standards Ruth Stearns Mandel and David Mandel discuss gender double standards and how they impact the work with families. David shares […]

Episode 3, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 3: Language and professional terms which cover up realities of abuse In this episode of Partnered with a Survivor Ruth Stearns Mandel & David […]

Episode 2, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

  About Episode 2: Victim Blaming Victim Blaming is a constant element of the failure of systems and individuals to appropriately and effectively address violence and […]

Episode 1, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast

About Episode 1: Coercive Control and Consent In this premiere episode of the podcast, Partnered with a Survivor, Ruth Stearns Mandel and David Mandel, partners in their […]

General Resources for Professionals and Survivors

To support allies of survivors, here are some national-level support contacts. Most of the phone numbers are a mixture of 24-hour-a-day hotlines and business-hour helpline services. Many provide online chat services as well. The services provided by these agencies are generally free. All phone numbers are local to that country. Many of these agencies also offer support and referrals for male survivors of domestic violence.

(Australia) National sexual assault, domestic and family violence counselling service Ph: 1800 737 732
(Australia) Lifeline Ph: 13 11 14
(Australia) Men’s Line Ph: 1300 78 99 78
(Australia) Kids Helpline Ph: 1800 55 1800
(Canada) Shelter Safe (provides a list of domestic abuse shelters in each province and territory with phone numbers)
(Hong Kong) Hong Kong Federation of Women’s Centres Ph: 2386 6255
(New Zealand) Women’s Refuge Ph: 0800 REFUGE or 0800 733 843
(New Zealand) It’s Not Ok Campaign Ph: 0800 456 450
(New Zealand) Lifeline Ph: 0800 543 354
(Northern Ireland) Northern Ireland Women’s Aid Ph: 0808 802 1414
(Scotland) Scottish Women’s Aid Ph: 0800 027 1234
(Singapore) Association of Women for Action and Research Ph: 1800 777 5555
(UK) National Domestic Abuse Helpline Ph: 0808 2000 247
(UK) National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline Ph: 0800 999 5428
(UK) Respect Men’s Advice Line Ph: 0808 8010327
(US) National Domestic Violence Hotline Ph: 1-800-799-7233/1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
(US) StrongHearts Native Helpline Ph: 1−844-762-8483
(US) The National Deaf Domestic Violence Hotline Videophone: 1-855-812-1001
(Wales) Welsh Women’s Aid Ph: 0808 80 10 800

Additional Resources
Technology can help provide safe communication with your loved ones, or it can be a way for the person using violence to monitor and stalk your loved one’s communication and movements. This website, www.techsafety.org, sponsored by the US-based National Network to End Domestic Violence, is a resource about technology and abuse for allies and their loved ones, and how to safely use technology to communicate.

Other free resources