Partnered with a Survivor Podcast: Intimate, professional, informative

These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners.

Coming soon! Officer-involved domestic violence (OIDV), which primarily refers to police officers’ perpetration of domestic violence, is a serious and prevalent problem. This multi-part series will explore the problem of OIDV through the eyes of an award-winning journalist, an OIDV survivor and reform advocate, an original OIDV researcher, and a decorated police officer who has a 30-year reputation for advocating for changes in domestic violence policing.

A special, COVID-focussed podcast to help practitioners navigate the waters of a pandemic, including how to adapt your domestic abuse assessments for video, phone or social distancing. VIEW THE SERIES.

Alex Roslin is an award-winning journalist who was president of the board of the Canadian Centre for Investigative Reporting. He won these awards for the second edition of his book “Police Wife: The Secret Epidemic of Domestic Violence.”

– 2018 Reader’s Favorite International Book Awards, honorable mention
– American Book Fest’s 2017 Best Book Awards Finalist
– 2018 Global Ebook Awards, bronze
– 2018 Arthur Ellis Awards for Excellence in Canadian Crime Writing, finalist (best nonfiction crime book category)
– 2018 New York Book Festival, honorable mention
– 2018 Los Angeles Book Festival, honorable mention
– 2018 San Francisco Book Festival, honorable mention
– 2017 New England Book Festival, honorable mention

The first edition of “Police Wife,” which Roslin co-authored, won the Arlene Book Award for Writing that Makes a Difference and these other international book recognitions/awards:

– Hollywood Book Festival non-fiction book award, runner-up
– eLit Book Awards, silver
– INDIEFAB Book of the Year Awards, bronze
– Next Generation Indie Book Awards, finalist

Roslin has also won three Canadian Association of Journalists prizes for investigative reporting and 12 nominations for CAJ awards and National Magazine Awards.

He is the winner of the President’s Award of the Professional Writers Association of Canada and has worked as an associate producer for the CBC-TV investigative programs The Fifth Estate and Disclosure. His writing has appeared in for The Montreal Gazette, The Financial Post, The Globe and Mail, The Toronto Star, The Seattle Times, Rodale’s Scuba Diving, Black Belt Magazine, Today’s Parent, Canadian Geographic and many others.

Dr. Leanor Johnson is an Emeritus Professor of African and African American Studies in the School of Social Transformation at Arizona State University. Johnson’s main research activities have been in Black family studies, cross-cultural sexuality, and work-family stress. In addition, she is an associate editor of the Journal of Family Relations, a consulting editor for the Journal of Sex Research, and a reviewer for several other journals.


  • Leanor Johnson, Michael Todd, Ganga Subramanian. Violence in Police Families: Work-Family Spillover. Journal of Family Violence (2005).
  • Johnson, Leanor Boulin, Staples, Robert. Black Families at the Crossroads: Challenges and Prospects. (2005).
  • Johnson, Leanor Boulin, Staples, Robert. Black Families at the Crossroads. (2004).
  • Psychological Perspectives (2002).
  • Johnson, Leanor Boulin (Author). Burnout and Work-Family Violence Among Police: Gender Comparisons. Domestic Violence by Police Officers (2000).


  • Johnson, Leanor. The Spirit of Black History Month. Speech given prior to an Address by Barry Black, Chaplain of the U.S. Senate, Camelback SDA Church (Feb 2005).
  • Johnson, Leanor. The Spirit of Black History Month. Camelback SDA Church (Feb 2004).
  • Johnson, Leanor. Brown Bag Book Discussion- Reparations, A discussion of Dr. Randall Robinson’s book: The Debt: What America Owes to Blacks. Arizona State University West Campus Black History Month (Feb 2003).
  • Johnson, Leanor, Tein, Jen-Yun, Lunka, Michelle. Work and Family Emotional Display Rules, Job Burnout, and Police Family Well-being. Conference on Persons, Processes, and Places: Research on Families, Workplaces and Communities (Feb 2002).
  • Johnson, Leanor, Gershon, R, Wetendorf, D, M Esposito, N. Police Work-Family Stress and Domestic Violence: Reports from Researchers, Practitioners, and Administrators. National Council on Family Relationships Symposium (Nov 2001).

  • Camelback SDA Church, Scottsdale, AZ, Speaker (2004 – Present)
  • National Council on Family Relations, Leadership Workshop & Institute Houston, Texas and Orlando, Florida, Co-founder (2000 – Present)
  • Journal of Family Relations, Editorial Board (1989 – 2010)
  • Tanzania Calculator Project. Tanzania, Africa. Sullivan Foundation, Washington D.C, Organizer (2008 – 2008)
  • Pacific Union College, Board of Trustees Regent (2003 – 2008)
  • Camelback SDA Church. Black History Tribute, Consultant/Contributor (2005 – 2007)
  • African American Advisory Council for the State of Arizona, Advisor (2004 – 2007)
  • Between Nurses Foundation, Board Member (2004 – 2007)
  • Between Nurses Foundation. Phoenix, Arizona, Board Member (2004 – 2007)
  • Camelback SDA Church, Scottsdale, AZ, Consultant/presenter (2006 – 2007)
  • Personnel Action Committee AAAS, 3rd Year Review Committee, Chair (2006 – 2007)
  • Martin Luther King, Jr Celebration Committee, Member (2006 – 2007)
  • National Council on Family Relations, Co-organizer and Facilitator (2005 – 2006)
  • African American Advisory Council to Superintendent of Public Instruction, State of Arizona Department of Education, Member (2004 – 2006)
  • Journal of Family Relations, Associate Editor (1989 – 2006)
  • National Council on Family Relations, Leadership Institute Workshop (2006)
  • Personnel Action Committee AAAS, 5th Year promotion and tenure, Chair (2006 – 2006)
  • Pacific Union College, Member, Board of Trustees (2003 – 2006)
  • Takoma Adventist Academy Board, Member (2003 – 2006)
  • Thunderbird Adventist Academy Board, Member (2003 – 2006)
  • International Fellows Selection Committee, Panelist/Judge (2006 – 2006)
  • African American Advisory Council for the State of Arizona, Member (2005 – 2006)
  • Leon Sullivan Summit/IFESH (International organization), Consultant (2006 – 2006)
  • NCFR Silent Auction: “AZ Lost Boys of Sudan Center”, Co-Chair (2005 – 2005)
  • National Council on Family Relations, Co-Chair, Local Arrangements Committee (2004 – 2005)
  • Family-Life Summit Workshop, Moderator (2005 – 2005)
  • NCFR Special and Plenary Session Session, Presider/Announcer (2005 – 2005)
  • Martin Luther King, Jr. Celebration Committee, Judge (2005 – 2005)
  • NCFR Tribute to Paul Glick, Co-Organizer (2005 – 2005)
  • Work-Life Summit Advisory Committee, Active Member (2005 – 2005)
  • Personnel Action Committee AAAS, 4th Year Review Committee, Chair (2005 – 2005)
  • Essay and Poster Contest, Judge (2004 – 2005)
  • Ms Magazine, Consultant (2005 – 2005)
  • A Wade Smith Lecture Series on Race Relations, Member (2004 – 2005)
  • Committee for Introduction to Ethnic Studies Course, Co-founder & member (1998 – 2005)
  • Camelback SDA Church, Speaker (2005 – 2005)
  • Community Alliance for Black Student Support Advisory Board, Member (2003 – 2004)
  • Employee Assistance Advisory Board, Member (2003 – 2004)
  • Martin Luther King Jr Advisory Board, Member (2003 – 2004)
  • ASU African and African American Studies Personnel Action Committee, Member (2004)
  • ASU African and African American Studies By-laws Committee, Member (2004)
  • ASU West Campus Black History Month Symposium, Discussant (2004)
  • Academic Affairs Committee, Board of Trustees, Pacific Union College, Member (2004)
  • Coordinating Committee: Introduction to Ethnic Studies, Co-founder and member (2004)
  • Faculty Women’s Association Advisory Board, Member (2004)
  • Time Magazine, Consultant (2004)
  • This Magazine, Consultant (2004 – 2004)
  • Community Alliance for Black Student Support Advisory Board, Member (2001 – 2004)
  • Faculty Search Committee, African & African American Studies, Chair (2002 – 2003)
  • A. Wade Smith Memorial Lecture on Race, Member (2003)
  • ACES Advisory Board, Member (2003)
  • Black Caucus, Member (2003)
  • By-Laws Committee for AAS, Member (2003)
  • COBA Board member, Member (2003)
  • Search Committee for African American Studies, Chair (2003)
  • Honors College, Co-organizer (2002 – 2003)
  • Carver/Phoenix Union High School Museum/Cultural Center & Oral History Project, Coordinator (2002 – 2003)
  • African and African American Studies, Chair (2002 – 2003)
  • COBA – National Symposium, Symposium Co-Facilitator (2001 – 2002)
  • African Art Museum, Phoenix, AZ, Board Member (1997 – 2002)
  • African American Faith Partnership with Arizona Department of Health Services (ADHS), Member (1996 – 2002)
  • The African American Faith Partnership with Arizona Department of Health Services (ADHS), Executive Board Member (1996 – 2002)
  • National Council on Family Relations- Election Council, Co-Chair (1999 – 2002)
  • National Council on Family Relations–Election Council, Co-Chair & Member (1999 – 2002)
  • Diversity Alliance, Member (2001 – 2002)
  • Leon Sullivan Summit/IFESH (International organization), Facilitator (2001 – 2002)
  • FBI Academy Advisory Board for Stress Issues, Expert Consultant (1998 – 2000)
  • FBI Academy Behavioral Science Unit, Quantico, VA, Advisory Board (1997 – 2000)

Nanette Chezum is a survivor of a verbally and psychologically abusive relationship with a law enforcement officer. Her passion is educating the public about intimate partner abuse via her personal story. Additionally, Nanette speaks about all forms of domestic abuse and the early warning signals that manifest in a new relationship.

Nanette has presented at various national conferences that educate about all forms of violence against women. Nanette is also a keynote speaker addressing sororities, women’s groups, students, advocates and law enforcement about violence against women and Officer Involved Domestic Violence. An avid writer, she writes blogs on her website and she authors a Facebook community page, “The Courage Corner – Domestic Abuse Awareness.” She writes of all forms of domestic abuse specifically highlighting verbal and psychological tactics utilized by abusive personalities, self-care tips, unhealthy behavior, empowerment, healing and speaking up about intimate partner abuse and shaming and blaming tactics used by society and offenders.

Nanette is a nationally-recognized speaker and an active volunteer with various Colorado-based and national non-profits that educate about domestic abuse, promote healthy relationships and empower survivors to heal, thrive and live their best lives.

March 2017 – The Initiative – Denver, CO – Presentation to program advocates: Verbal & psychological abuse
May 2017 – Safehouse Denver – Denver, CO – Presentation to Safehouse Denver donors: Survivor story
October 2017 – Safety Net – Denver, CO – Presentation to board: Domestic Violence in Colorado
October 2017 – Alternatives To Violence – Clayton & Raton, NM – Keynote addresses: Survivor story
November 2017 – Local Theatre Company – Boulder, CO – Survivor panel
May 2018 – I Am A Tonie March – Times Square – NYC – Presentation to community members: Supporting survivors
June 2018 – Colorado Advocacy In Action Conference – Vail, CO – Workshop session: Empowering Survivor Voices
December 2018 – National Coalition Against DV – Denver, CO – Webinar: Officer Involved Domestic Violence
February 2018 – Delta Sigma Theta – Denver, CO – Presentation to sorority network: Survivor story
April 2019 – Conference On Crimes Against Women – Dallas, TX – Presentation: Officer Involved Domestic Violence
April 2019 – Domestic Violence Prevention Academy – Grand Junction, CO – Presentations: Empowering Survivor Voices and Officer Involved DV
April 2019 – Take Back the Night – Boulder, CO – Empowering survivors
June 2019 – FCADV Rural Institute – Dade City, FL – Presentation: Officer Involved Domestic Violence
October 2019 – COVA Conference – Keystone, CO – Presentation: Officer Involved Domestic Violence

2020 Conferences postponed to 2021/2022:
May 2020 – North Carolina Coalition Against DV Conference – Greensboro, NC – Presentation: Start The Conversation: Officer-Involved DV
June 2020 – CAIA Conference – Vail, CO- Presentation: Start The Conversation: Officer-Involved DV
July 2020 – NOVA Conference – Orlando, FL – Presentation: Start The Conversation: Officer-Involved DV


Mark Wynn, a former law enforcement officer with more than 30 years of experience in domestic violence and addressing OIDV within police forces, has an intimate understanding of the internal and operational issues surrounding creating accountability within police forces for police perpetrators of domestic violence. He is a twenty-one-year veteran of the Nashville Metropolitan Police Department, including serving as a Lieutenant to the Domestic Violence Division and a member of the Special Weapons and Tactics (SWAT) Team for fifteen years. He is the recipient of 121 commendations and 51 awards and certificates, including the 1995 National Improvement of Justice Award, the 1998 Nashvillian of the Year Award, the 2012 Family Justice Center Alliance Lifetime Achievement Award, the 2011 “Visionary Award” by End Violence Against Women International and the Distinguished Faculty Award by the National District Attorney’s Association. Mark is an internationally recognized expert in family violence, sitting on numerous boards and acting to an instructor across numerous fields. His extensive work with implementing the International Chiefs of Police recommendations into OIDV has helped to improve accountability, transparency and safety.

These podcasts are a reflection of Ruth & David’s on-going conversations which are both intimate and professional and touch on complex topics like how systems fail victims and children, how victims experience those systems, and how children are impacted by those failures. Their discussions delve into how society views masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners. During these podcasts, David & Ruth challenge the notions which keep all us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures and as families into safety, nurturance and healing.Note: Some of the topics discussed in the episodes are deeply personal and sensitive, which may be difficult for some people. We occasionally use mature language. We often use gender pronouns like “he” when discussing perpetrators and “she” for victims. While both and men and women can be abusive and controlling, and domestic abuse happens in straight and same-sex relationships, the most common situation, when it comes to coercive control, is a male perpetrator and a female victim. Men’s abuse toward women is more closely associated with physical injury, fear and control. Similarly, very different expectations of men and women as parents and the focus of Safe & Together on children in the context of domestic abuse makes it impossible to make generic references to gender when it comes to parenting. The Model, through its behavioral focus on patterns of behavior, is useful in identifying and responding to abuse in all situations including same-sex couples and women’s use of violence. We think our listeners are sophisticated enough to understand these distinctions.

September 24, 2020

Episode 24: The healing power of survivor impact panels

September 8, 2020

Episode 23: Unraveling the gender paradox at the center of the Safe & Together Model

About Episode 23 Often gendered and non-gendered frameworks for domestic violence are pitted against each other as if they represent two mutually exclusive universes. This does […]
September 3, 2020

Episode 22: When Culture, Religion & Domestic Violence Meet

About Episode 22 Systems often fail domestic survivors who are from religious communities. In the United Kingdom and other places, Muslim survivors can face racism from […]
August 24, 2020

Episode 21: Listening to the Voices of Children and Young People Harmed by Fathers Who Choose Violence

About Episode 21 For too long we have not listened to children and young people’s experience of their father’s violence. In their groundbreaking research, Professor Cathy […]
August 10, 2020

Episode 20: Partnering with Survivors Using Restorative Practices: An interview with Dr. Eloise Sepeda

About Episode 20 During this time of reflection on law enforcement’s role in communities, explorations of restorative justice practices are more important than ever. In this […]
August 3, 2020

Episode 19: Nine Ways to Collude with a Person Who Chooses Violence

About Episode 19 In this episode, David & Ruth outline nine common narratives that support and encourage dangerous collusion with domestic violence perpetrators. They offer very practical […]
July 17, 2020

Episode 18: Survivors aren’t Broken! An intimate discussion about support and partnership in relationships

About Episode 18 In this episode of Partnered with a Survivor, David and Ruth offer a very personal look at relationship dynamics when one partner is […]
July 9, 2020

Special Interview: Charlie Webster with Ruth Mandel

About the Interview Ruth Stearns Mandel shares her experiences and training with BBC’s Charlie Webster during a special episode on talkRADIO about domestic violence.
June 18, 2020

Episode 17: Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’: A new community-based men’s behavior change toolkit

About Episode 17 To coincide with Father’s Day in the UK and USA we are pleased to launch our ‘Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’ […]
May 20, 2020

3KND Interview: A global movement going forward to protect children from family violence

About the Episode The Safe & Together Institute and Berry Street hosted the 3rd Asia Pacific Safe & Together™ Model Conference in February. Practitioners, policymakers, academics […]