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Partnered with a Survivor Podcast: Intimate, professional, informative

These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners.

These podcasts are a reflection of Ruth & David’s on-going conversations which are both intimate and professional and touch on complex topics like how systems fail victims and children, how victims experience those systems, and how children are impacted by those failures. Their discussions delve into how society views masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners. During these podcasts, David & Ruth challenge the notions which keep all us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures and as families into safety, nurturance and healing.Note: Some of the topics discussed in the episodes are deeply personal and sensitive, which may be difficult for some people. We occasionally use mature language. We often use gender pronouns like “he” when discussing perpetrators and “she” for victims. While both and men and women can be abusive and controlling, and domestic abuse happens in straight and same-sex relationships, the most common situation, when it comes to coercive control, is a male perpetrator and a female victim. Men’s abuse toward women is more closely associated with physical injury, fear and control. Similarly, very different expectations of men and women as parents and the focus of Safe & Together on children in the context of domestic abuse makes it impossible to make generic references to gender when it comes to parenting. The Model, through its behavioral focus on patterns of behavior, is useful in identifying and responding to abuse in all situations including same-sex couples and women’s use of violence. We think our listeners are sophisticated enough to understand these distinctions.

July 17, 2020

Episode 18: Survivors aren’t Broken! An intimate discussion about support and partnership in relationships

About Episode 18 In this episode of Partnered with a Survivor, David and Ruth offer a very personal look at relationship dynamics when one partner is […]
July 9, 2020

Special Interview: Charlie Webster with Ruth Mandel

About the Interview Ruth Stearns Mandel shares her experiences and training with BBC’s Charlie Webster during a special episode on talkRADIO about domestic violence.
June 18, 2020

Episode 17: Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’: A new community-based men’s behavior change toolkit

About Episode 17 To coincide with Father’s Day in the UK and USA we are pleased to launch our ‘Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’ […]
May 20, 2020

3KND Interview: A global movement going forward to protect children from family violence

About the Episode The Safe & Together Institute and Berry Street hosted the 3rd Asia Pacific Safe & Together™ Model Conference in February. Practitioners, policymakers, academics […]
May 19, 2020

3KND Interview: The impacts of controlling behaviour, the hidden violence in relationships

About the Episode In 2017 Luke and Ryan Hart’s lives changed tragically when their father murdered their Mother Claire and Sister Charlotte in Lincolnshire UK. Their […]
May 19, 2020

3KND Interview: How Ruth Mandel’s podcast ‘Partnered With a Survivor’ is supporting healing all over the world

About the Episode Ruth Stearns Mandel is the Communications and E-Learning Manager at the Safe & Together Institute. ‘Partnered with a Survivor,” podcast with S&T’s Executive […]
May 4, 2020

Episode 16: Family and Friends Guide: How to be an ally to a loved one who is being abused

About Episode 16 In this episode, David interviews Ruth about the Safe & Together Institute’s Family and Friends Ally Guide. This guide was created out the […]
May 1, 2020

Episode 15: Coercive Control, Entrapment & Isolation: An interview with Luke & Ryan Hart

About Episode 15 Before he murdered their mother Claire and their sister Charlotte, Luke and Ryan Hart’s father spent years justifying his control by telling them […]
April 6, 2020

Episode 14, Caring for self while caring for others: An interview with Laura van Dernoot Lipksy

About Episode 14: Caring for self while caring for others: An interview with Laura van Dernoot Lipksy In this episode, Ruth and David have a discussion with […]
March 24, 2020

Episode 13, Partnered with a Survivor Podcast (SPECIAL COVID-19 FOCUS)

About Episode 13: Mapping domestic violence perpetrator’s use of COVID-19 pandemic to increase coercive control In this episode Ruth & David outline an emerging checklist for […]