Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers
How to Transform the Way We Keep Children Safe from Domestic Violence
by David Mandel, Creator of the Safe & Together Model
Domestic violence survivors all over the world share the experience of protecting their children yet still being blamed for “choosing their partner over their children,” “failing to protect,” and “parental alienation.”
In this groundbreaking book written for professionals and survivors, David Mandel deconstructs the six key myths at the heart of mother-blaming and father-ignoring culture, demonstrating their flaws and limitations.
Supported by case studies and testimonials of practitioners and survivors, Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers shows you how the Safe & Together Model can help you learn new ways to partner with survivors and intervene with domestic abuse perpetrators as parents.
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A Better Way to Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers
This book will show readers how to:
Understand complex concepts in a simple and easy way through comic art
Apply the concepts of the Safe & Together Model and the Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool work in real life
Identify mother-blaming and father-ignoring in practices that harm children
Unlock the power in the concept of domestic violence perpetration as a parenting choice
Create systems that are more ethical, efficient, safer, and effective in their responses to domestic violence
Better intervene with perpetrators as parents
Give protective mothers fuller credit for their efforts
Offer new ways to keep more children safe and together with their protective parent
Watch "Pivoting to the Perpetrator" in Action
In this animated sequence from Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers, David helps a social worker shift his focus from blaming the mother to paying attention to the father’s control.
A Note from the Author
“I wanted to write a book that a practitioner or a survivor could pick up and recognize themselves in the anecdotes, the testimonials, and the conversations that are shared throughout the book. I even included comic art in order to make these self-reflections easier. It is my hope that this recognition will be a catalyst for change. I want readers to see how influential their experiences have been in informing the work of the Safe & Together Institute. It was critically important to me that the voices of practitioners and survivors were represented in the book.” –David Mandel
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