Season 5 Episode 8: The Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident
[buzzsprout episode='15495939' player='true']
About this episode
In this episode, David & Ruth speak about the Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident chapter of David's recently published book: "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform The Way We Keep Children Safe From Domestic Violence."
They discuss how an isolated incident lens:
- Focuses systems interventions & professional responses on isolated acts of physical violence rather than on patterns of violence & coercive control, which blinds professionals and systems to the wider dangers created to adult & child survivors by a perpetrator
- Makes it harder to see the loss of liberty and entrapment generated by the perpetrator’s pattern
- Fails to document & address the danger & harm created by nonphysical acts of abuse & removal of liberty (coercive control) such as:
- ongoing control directed at the adult partner
- willingness to harm children as a way to pressure and hurt their partner
- the underlying attitudes and beliefs that entitle Perpetrator to control & violence
- the manipulations of systems and threats or actual use of systems like family court and child protection to continue fear and control campaigns
- How the Safe & Together Model helps identify entrapment, loss of liberty and impact on child, partner and family functioning to increase the awareness of professionals as to the patterns, trauma & danger created by a perpetrator
Related Podcasts:
Intro to David Mandel’s book “Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers”
Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child WitnessWant guided book discussions for your staff or community stakeholders? Check out this free book Study guide.
Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current caseload in real time.
Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence."