Season 6 Episode 6: Broken Blue Line: Confronting Officer-Perpetrated Domestic Violence
About This Episode
When Bruce Bieber’s phone rang at 2:50 a.m., his world shattered. Three deputies stood at his door with news that his daughter Abby, a dedicated police officer known for her compassion and professionalism, had been murdered by her boyfriend—a fellow officer with a documented history of domestic violence that had been systematically minimized by their department.
This powerful conversation exposes the deadly consequences of law enforcement’s failure to address domestic violence within their ranks. Bruce shares how his daughter’s killer had previously threatened another girlfriend at gunpoint yet received only a token reprimand to “stop dating her” rather than facing criminal charges or meaningful discipline. This pattern of protection enabled him to continue serving while posing a lethal threat to those closest to him.
The discussion delves into what experts call the “data desert” surrounding officer-involved domestic violence (OIDV)—the deliberate lack of tracking and transparency that shields departments from accountability. With estimates suggesting 40–60% of officers may perpetrate domestic abuse, this creates a horrifying reality where victims call 911 only to have their cases potentially handled by officers who are abusers themselves.
We examine how well-intentioned policies like zero-tolerance rules and firearms restrictions for domestic abusers can backfire, sometimes discouraging reporting rather than promoting safety. Bruce advocates for pattern-based approaches that allow departments to address concerning behaviors before they escalate to violence, potentially saving lives like his daughter’s.
For survivors trapped in relationships with law enforcement officers, Bruce offers hard-earned wisdom: Recognize the warning signs, understand that leaving is the most dangerous time, and connect with experts who can help create a comprehensive safety plan. His message resonates with the urgency of someone who's lost everything and is determined that no other family should experience this preventable tragedy.
If you’re concerned about domestic violence in your community or workplace, join us in demanding accountability, transparency, and change. Together, we can ensure that those who wear the badge truly protect and serve all members of society—including their own families.
Additional Resources
Podcast: Season 1 Episode 27: “How much crime are you willing to let your police commit?”
Podcast: Season 1 Episode 26: Listening to the voices of survivors of officer-involved domestic violence: An interview with Nanette Chezum
David Mandel’s book Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform the Way We Keep Children Safe from Domestic Violence
Safe & Together Institute’s domestic abuse–informed trainings
Safe & Together Institute’s upcoming events